What the hell do I do special for my dear husband's bday?He's been blowing off ALL my plans and I am so pissed?

It sounds as if he doesn't want to go out at all. Just plan a very nice dinner at home with candles flowers a real linen tablecloth - the whole nine yards. And have the table set when he gets home. Let it be a complete surprise so he can't shoot holes in your plans. Don't worry too much about a gift. Your fancy home-cooked dinner will be enough of a gift.